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Name: Virginia
Birthday: 3/8/1985
Gender: Female
Interests: Randomness.
Expertise: Well, lets see. I am very good at missing my siblings when they are not at home.
I am also quite good at making people laugh at my ATTEMPTS to be funny.
Occupation: Student
Industry: Studying
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Member Since:
5/10/2004
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| Time to think. Time to write. I seem to have lost both… or at least, both at the same time. I always have a million things going through my head and I’ve been wanting some quiet time to just jot them down. … and to share them with whoever reads these words.
I am getting married in just a few short weeks. I used to think I would never hear myself say those words. I used to think that “bliss” was never part of my future. I feel it though, I feel bliss… and I think it is just around the corner. However, I know that this so called “bliss” might not be a genuine thing. And you know what? I think that’s a good thing. I am going to love my husband. And, to tell you the truth, I’m going to love him in a deeper kind of love than “sheer bliss.” (Who knows, bliss could be blind anyway) 
I received a book in the mail from a friend today… a wedding present. (Wow, it is *SO* hard to believe I am getting WEDDING presents!) (thanks, Lori)
As I was flipping through the book I noticed that the theme was “What if marriage was to make us holy more than to make us happy?” I think the book is precisely right. Kind of like what I was saying: Do you marry for bliss - or for something deeper?
Oh how I long to marry Joel. I know that it will be happiness, but I also know that we will have human sin nature and we are not perfect on this side of heaven. I am going to upset Joel, and maybe (although it’s hard to see), he will upset me. I guess this gives us both a chance to be more Christ-like with each other in forgiving and being gracious to each other. You know what? Bring it on.
I’ve faced some hardships over the last few months, and to a point it’s put a damper on my happy “bliss” feeling. But, as for my love for Joel… it’s only made that love deeper. I really have become closer friends with my beloved Joel. I am ever learning more and more how to cling to Christ and His word. And you know what I’ve learned? Counting your blessings does a lot for a person.  It’s the only way you can stay connected to God’s genuine love that is true happiness.
I am getting married in 27 days. 
I am cleaning my apartment that I will be living in. (with my new husband!) 
My dear Joel was laid off from his job, but in just one week he got an even better job.
My man has a good job.
I have a family who loves me.
I have a lot to do for the wedding. 
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. 
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| Student teaching has taken a lot out of me, and time after time I’ve been looked down on from others in the school cooperation like I don’t understand and that I can’t teach children.
But today after school in the library, I had a totally different experience:
I was in the public library in the children’s section looking for valentines books. Little did I realize that all of them were right behind me the whole time I was looking on the computer. I wrote down addresses and then went to different shelves and couldn’t figure out why they were not on the shelves! Then I realized that they had all been pulled to be put in a Valentines section just for the holiday.
Well, the whole time I had been looking, there had been a young girl and her father at the valentine’s section looking for a book. The young girl was looking for “just the right book” and she had been looking for quite some time and the father was eager to help. They had spent time reading over titles while the father kept suggesting ones. It made me smile. So, once it dawned on me that I shouldn’t be running all over the children’s section to look for valentine’s books (because there were all pulled and place in this section), I started to look at this tiny section of books along with the father and daughter. (So imagine, 3 people looking over a very small amount of books.) I tried not to frighten the girl into thinking that I would get the book that she would want; after all, she had been there for quite some time. So, as I was looking the father became tired (or cramped, we’ll never know), and sat down asking - almost pleading, for his child to find the book. I will have to say, though, that his patience was very good.
As I was looking I pulled out a book, flipped through it, and it seemed just right for this young girl so suggested it to her. She was a little amazed that I would just pull out a book and hand it to her, but she looked at it, and sure enough, she liked it. In fact, she liked it enough that she promptly turned around and told her dad she had got a book she liked and was ready to go. (How that made my heart sing!) I’m sure the father was a little bit stunned that I just, with one glance, could find her a book after they had been looking for quite some time. I realized then that I really know children, and I can connect to them - no matter what adults in the “education world” tell me. Here was a girl I could just instantly help. Say what you may, but I truly know kids.
I was VERY thankful for this little "moment of sunny happiness" amongst my rainy day.
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| Dear Xanga,
I am sorry that you have been so neglected. I guess that's what happens when people get busy.... they don't take time for the "small important" things in life. You see, I've been so busy with school, teaching, working, playing music, training dogs, and talking to friends and my fiance, that other quiet things like reading a book, doing crafts, and xangaing gets put on eternal hold.  okay, now that's sad. My "Priority list" is pretty much what rules me these days. If a library book is due THAT is what I worry myself about for the day, if a school assignment is due that week/day THAT is what I do.... and if I have to be at work by a certain time... yeah, you guessed it, THAT's what I do.
Lots of rambling, I know. But you know? That's what I'm good at.  I'm good at that when I am "spacing" just thinking, or running around like a lunatic on caffeine. Teehee. Yes, Rambling Randomness Rocks! AHA! Alliteration! oh score.
Well, I just HAD to post, because I will no longer post anymore this year. Yes, 'tis true.
Goodbye ol' xanga.... ... until next year (or until I have TIME next year... yeah... 'bout that.... you could hear from me as early as March)
Rock on y'all!!!
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I'm engaged to the love of my life.... Joel Pendleton.
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| How I met my Joel...They always say that once people are in a relationship … that things start to slide. Yeah.. About that. Here I thought xanga would never be neglected… and wow was I wrong! Xanga has served me well. And I STILL refuse to say goodbye. Just, lately, I’ve been a little, well… preoccupied. 
I know many of you are wanting to hear my story of how Joel and I met... and what led to our courtship. Honestly, I don't know how to follow such a post as Joel's post, but I'm going to give it my best.
I think that Joel and I were more in shock, awe, and amazement in the fact that we were actually courting than many people who have known both of us. I guess courtships happen, and people are used to that happening, but honestly I never thought mine would happen with such a wonderful man!
I remember meeting Joel Pendleton for the first time at Verity. He was a D.E. Student (Distributive Education... otherwise known as Distance Education) and he was visiting for 2 weeks before going back home to finish school. I instantly felt connected with him because of what type of school he would be doing. I had just finished 5 months of being a D.E. student and I know that it was not easy (Right D.Eers!?) So I was glad to encourage him and let him know he wasn't alone. However, I did all of this with a lot of decorum. I was friendly and welcoming, but also careful about it.
I remember talking to him many times in the RCI lobby by the fireplace. There were other good friends there, so I would often join them during a school break. Joel and I had a few good conversations during that time and I remember being struck by his sincerity, genuineness, maturity, and gentlemanly behavior.
One night, many Verity students went to a voice concert a few blocks away, one where Boulden and Cameron Houser were performing, and I remember talking to Joel earlier and he mentioned that he was going - so I was excited about that. We walked in a group together on the way there, and sat in the same pew; I believe with one person in between us. As Joel said, that didn't keep us from talking to each other during the concert! I remember being thoroughly disappointed that we didn't walk back together, and I don't think I saw him the rest of the night - but that didn't keep me from thinking about him.
Throughout the last few days I really wanted to drop all my studies and just spend time around Joel because I knew he would be leaving soon.
Joel was very courteous whenever we talked. I truly felt like I couldn’t talk with him enough… but, being at Verity, I knew it was VERY possible to talk to a young man too much - something I didn’t want to be known for. Joel was always very kind and extra nice to me. If it had been anyone else I would have wondered if they liked me. But, truth be told, I never thought that about Joel. Of course I hoped that he was genuinely interested (I knew I was!), but young men from down south are ALWAYS way more gentlemanly than any others. So, I always had to remind myself that they were being extra nice because they were raised that way. (A wonderful trait for young men to have, I might add.) So, I continued to think that Joel was being nice “Just because.” I enjoyed being around him a lot, but always being careful with where, how, and how long.
So, I found creative ways to have a little more time with Joel. Once, I even brought my laptop down to the lobby so I could talk and study at the same time. I encouraged him to get a xanga - because it was a wonderful way to stay in touch with everyone at Verity and it is that it is helpful to D.E. students. Of course, on my end, I thought it was a wonderful way for me to keep up with him.
When it was time for Joel to leave I made a point to say goodbye and he pulled out a picture of his family. It was wonderful. I remember looking at that picture and hearing the love he had for them... and wishing I could meet all of them. Also, I come from a rather small family, so seeing that he had 6 + siblings was wonderful!
I was very interested in Joel Pendleton... and wishing that we could meet again, soon.
~ 3 Long years passed ~
During this time we had very limited contact… and the occasional comment on each other’s xangas.
Then, in February of this year (2008) we got back into more regular contact…..
… to be continued.
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